INFJs are considered as rarest type, perceived as gentle, kind, saintly, the type who always wants to nurture and save humanity just like Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King Mahatma Gandhi, who were believed to be true INFJs and yet Hitler was too.
I know its hard to believe that Hitler was also INFJ because INFJ considered as kindest in nature and Hitler was Hitler. But they also have their dark side (INFJ Dark Side) which is pretty bad. You can read about misconceptions about INFJs people have.
We are gonna discuss 10 Reasons why INFJs prefer the dark side (INFJ Dark Side) .
Yes, INFJs also do have their dark sides (INFJ Dark Side) that could usually torment their inner selves but when outside factors triggered infj they could race him and wouldn’t care less of those whom they bring their wrath upon.
10. Unhealthy environment
INFJs are known to be resilient and patient they usually considered calm balanced. They are capable in handling any kind of stress.
Yet being in an unhealthy environment can stress them out. They are very much comfortable in a regular manner with nothing or no one to vent on. They feel very comfortable when everything is going as planned.
But when there is any last-minute change in their plan they panic they lose their calmness. They are not comfortable looking too many details at the last minute.
You tell them that they have to make some last-minute changes in their presentation and you’ll see how INFJs snap, lash out at you. Infjs are calm people but that warmness can bring hell when tested.
9. Change in plan
As we mentioned above INFJs are very good at planning. Some changes to a well-structured plan may overwhelm INFJs they’re the kind who are into planning and having their checklists in a tab it’s part of who they are.
Every detail they had it specifically checked it would be an understatement to call them OC’s.
Yet INFJs are slaves to keeping tabs on their plans. From the most important to the tiniest details, sudden changes without a fair warning, with a little time to make amends to this structure, they had in mind but certainly, have them the tipping point.
For a INFJ plan is a plan changes should be in a memo a few days or weeks before, they see it as a domino effect that might wreck everything, if they failed to overlook just a tidy detail to these sudden modifications.
8. Unable to express real emotions
What makes INFJs turns dark. INFJs avoid conflict as much as possible and with conquered differences with a diplomatic approach.
They are the kind that doesn’t like to rock the boat as much as possible yet, when INFJs are done receiving all the rocking from others they might lash out big time.
They usually grow up avoiding unnecessary conflicts giving others chances, understanding people’s feelings and justifying their actions with it.
INFJs would suppress their anger resentments, envy guilt, and pains because they do not want to burden those around them. Yet when they had enough they could explore to the hurtful words and revelations that could really cut others deep and they won’t see it coming.
7. Running out of patience and chances
INFJs being huge and paths of the collective may usually attract people who abuse their patience and their gentleness.
Many INFJs complain about people who are taking advantage of their kindness but these people will be surprised on how well INFJs can see through them their games and manipulations.
INFJ may play along trying to play the bigger person yet when these leeches would drain the INFJs patience and would abuse the chances they grant.
INFJs would slam their doors loudly enough to make a statement. That these people should never come back into their lives.
As an INFJ having your infamous door slam. Have you usually run out of patience? or are you just too hurt that you choose to close your door on these people?
6. Fake Surrounding
INFJs having this hero mentality rooted in their core that attracts certain types of toxic people. And they would usually lure INFJs with their victim mentality.
This is why INFJS has trust issues and would have a hard time letting people into their lives and having their guards down.
People might have accused INFJs of being too guarded distant and calculating but few would know what made them the way they are. And, what circumstances have brought them in such a high cold emotional lifestyle.
INFJS who have been hurt and abused would never be too welcoming and too trusting of whom they get their energies intertwined with.
5. Bottling negativities
INFJs may have been the type who suppresses real emotions, who hide their truths and pains. But they’re also the type who will hold back their judgments and their insights about how people did them wrong.
They will keep an all in until someone will be brave enough to cross them over and over, shake them up real good until INFJs would lose everything that makes them human.
They would be far from saintly when people would test them through disrespect, insults, psychological, and emotional tirades.
4. High expectations
They say curiosity kills the cat. Yet, for the INFJs it’s the high expectations they project on others. INFJs have this fondness for putting people on a certain pedestal with expectations higher than their exact capabilities.
When this truth struck them that those people are not worthy enough of their expectations and they were idolizing them. It would make the INFJs deeply disappointed they may need time to get away before having this rage inside of them poured on that person, to realign their emotions and to absorb that sometimes people do disappoint.
Do your usual disappointments from a possible romantic interest ? or from a platonic connection?
3. The better me
INFJs may not admit that but they often find themselves better than others. This is probably why they tend to be resilient patient and kinder since they always remind themselves to be a bigger person.
And with the perspective they have of the world it makes them see things clearer than other people. INFJs may tolerate disappointment from other people, they might even expect it, but when they disappoint themselves in the process of achieving a goal this could drive them mad and break them.
2. Overly sensitive
INFJs are extremely sensitive to people’s energies and needs. This is their gift as empaths, and also might be one of their downsides. They might be too sensitive to people’s judgments feedback and even their tones and body language.
All these must be connected to INFJs being socially anxious. Most of the time and maybe why they avoid conflict as much as possible because they can get easily hurt.
They might take it wrongly and would be closed off the people’s opinions about them. The next thing they knew they were already scheming unnecessary revenge.
Calm down INFJs hear them out, welcome feedback, if they’re meant to cut you, well consider it being sharpened.
1. The urge to please everyone
Being naturally drawn to caring for others in the world INFJs would often try to please people around them.
Always the first to notice a problem and the first to offer a solution. Bound by their innate hero mentality INFJs would almost always find themselves exhausted.
Trying to fill in people’s needs and to save everybody INFJs need to remind themselves that these people can be their own heroes that INFJs can’t save everybody and they need to save themselves first.
This constant urge to please would just have them drained and clouded by all negativities absorbed from all the savings they had, and they might just snap.
10 Reasons INFJs prefer dark side (INFJ Dark Side)
Everyone has their dark sides a shadow that everyone tries to hide or keep in the dark but sometimes some people fail to keep these shadows hidden or tame them.
There are days when you just want to keep it hidden but can’t help but unleash the beast. One should not be ashamed of this dark side everybody has it.
There are good days but there are bad days too and acting on it sometimes should be socially accepted and one should try to understand these dark sides.
Not just for the INFJ (INFJ Dark Side) but for everyone else, it’s a cruel world out there and it probably will not get better. The difference will always be how one responds to it or recovers from it are you an INFJ what more would you like to add let us know.
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